I approached Riley Reyes on the AVN Expo floor during her meet-and-greet hours with fans. Her shy smile was a welcoming beacon to me and everyone else walking by. When we started talking, though, I could immediately see her still waters run deep. As an activist who serves as the Vice President of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee (APAC), Riley’s adult career is centered around defending the rights and safety of her fellow performers. Her passion for cooperation is evident in the way she conducts her personal relationships, too. I got to hear heartwarming details about Riley’s life at home and discuss some sexy scene experiences, but as with all of my conversations, this one ended with us talking about the cartoons that make us ugly-cry.
ESME: So, was porn an industry you sought out, or did you happen upon it?
RILEY REYES: I went looking for it. I thought it sounded like a lot of fun.
E: Were you in a relationship when you started?
RR: Yes, I was in several relationships when I started because I’m polyamorous.
RR: And one of those relationships is still going!
RR: So, she and I have been together about five years, going on six.
E: Aww, that’s awesome. Congratulations.
RR: Thank you!
E: So, how does non-monogamy in your professional life shape your personal relationships?
RR: I was already sort of a non-monogamous, polyamorous person, so doing sex for work didn’t really change much in my personal landscape, besides that I’m tired a lot more and end up having a lot more sensual contact in my personal life. I go to way fewer sex parties.
E: I can understand that. You’ve been polyamorous a while, so what do you think are the best things about having multiple partners, and what are some of the challenges?
RR: The best thing about having multiple partners is that you literally have a village. You have people to fulfill different needs or share different interests with you, and you can all support one another in sort of a family unit. So if one person’s down, they have multiple folks to help pick them back up. And I think that’s really beautiful.…